Mindfulness
only 11% can boast of this
- Energy
- Passion
- Self-Regulation
- Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the main source of your calm and wisdom. As applied to your sexuality, it creates a sense of curiosity and excitement.
People see you as a figure of authority and mystery. It is entirely up to you how you will use this image. But in doing so, keep in mind that others tend to look up to and rely on you.
With that, don’t forget that your erotic potential is just simmering below the thin surface of your restraint and respectability. You are well aware of when and how to let it rip, and this is probably why you tend to suppress your sexual urges far too often. Because sex is just a small part of life for you, you pay a lot of attention to other people, contexts, and situations that offer an opportunity for pleasure.
For you, sexual congress is not just the means to scratch an itch: it is a way to find meaning.
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Meet your primary strength
You appreciate the simple and natural moments of joy and well-being that make your life full and rich. Sex plays the role of an “icing on the cake,” and you approach it carefully. Health, income, social status, personal and social life – all this creates the harmony and completeness that bring you satisfaction. You enjoy playfulness and passion of sex, but you tend to focus more on other important aspects of life. You know how to satisfy yourself and your partner and understand what brings you pleasure. Your sexual life is stable, and your relationships, even if they are not officially set on paper, are strong.
If you stick with the rhythm and lifestyle that best suits you, you regularly feel the influx of vitality and arousal and you take it as something joyful and inspiring. If you wish and the circumstances allow, you can boldly succumb to it. Alternatively, if the circumstances or your other priorities so require, you are also able to restrain your immediate impulses. You know your erotic scenario almost by heart and successfully play it out, deriving maximum pleasure with a regular or semi-regular partner. Also, for you, masturbation is quite a pleasurable experience, essentially equal to that that involves a partner. Trust in your body and sexual impulse, combined with a certain amount of thoughtfulness and generosity in sex, sets you apart from those around you.
Ultimately, erotic fullness and a sense of flirting with life help you navigate the stormy seas of social interactions and make the best choices in work and personal life. A long time ago, you have learned that at the root of every right decision for you is a feeling or anticipation of pleasure and a slight prick of excitement or arousal – these are your signs that everything is going as it should. You use the same principle to determine if a partner is right for you: if you are receiving these signals, you can safely move in the chosen direction, because you know it will be best for everyone. Your sexual style can be somewhat assertive and even categorical, provided you have sufficient physical strength and emotional energy. When you know what you want, you simply forge ahead toward your goal, and most of the time, your partners cannot resist your persuasiveness.
Origins and foundations
Your life story is filled with intriguing experiences each of which played its role in making you the sexual being you are today. Even if you haven’t tried absolutely everything there is out there, you may safely consider yourself an expert of your own sexual pleasure.
To be perfectly honest, many extravagant scenarios that you once have dreamed of now do not seem so enticing. You have allowed yourself to focus on a finite number of partners, positions, and exciting accessories that bring you the most pleasure. The feeling of renewal and energy boost after good sex brings you joy and a sense of wellbeing. If no partner is around, you can easily pleasure yourself without feeling that this is a worse, inadequate or sinful option. Prudishness is not your thing, certainly not in bed. You never let anyone’s opinions on yourself or your sex life affect your self-esteem or ruin your pleasure. Simply put, you do not believe that anyone’s opinion matters in such a deeply-personal area as your sexuality.
You know yourself well enough to easily navigate the calm seas of well-deserved wellbeing on a graceful ship of your “nearly attained” sexual dream.
Caring for yourself and others is sexy
You strive to keep yourself and your loved ones in good shape, enjoying comfort. Material well-being affects your sexual drive: luxury brings you joy, but sufficient comfort is a must.
Health and comfort are the essential aspects of your sexual wellness: you do not find “love in a shack” and the uncertainty of the physical setting for sex romantic in the least. To those offering you a quick hook-up, you may sarcastically respond that you are “past that age.” You automatically lead a healthy lifestyle. Healthy and successful people attract your attention as potential sexual partners. You may fantasize about having sex with them, but you never fail to appreciate their social standing, whether it be marriage, parenthood, or friendships. You simply observe those who prefer the hustle and bustle without trying to change or avoid them. You are ready to support your friends and partners in their pursuit of a better life, provided that your contribution will be appreciated and used for establishing and improving their quality of life. You find beauty in thriving, gaining experience, and improving life and respect people who strive for this.
You take people falling in love with you as something natural, something that doesn’t call for mandatory sexual reciprocity. It’s hard for you to just let someone get into your pants, but under certain circumstances, you are, of course, ready for sexual adventures.
The taste of silence
You have learned to appreciate the time of solitude and gaps between meetings. For you, rest and enjoyment are vital in sex. You are becoming a connoisseur and appreciate partners who share your thirst for pleasure. Ending relationships and leaving partners become particularly meaningful to you: you know how to properly say goodbye, even finding a certain beauty in the process.
At times, when you remember past relationships and share stories with friends, you may appear overly sentimental. But these conversations make you happy, as if you are a child marveling at their favorite fairy tale.
The power of vulnerability
In search of your own brand of sexuality, you have likely tried to be more engaged and determined and are well aware of the value of strength and resolve. But nowadays, you are more interested in the initiative of your partners: you have enough discipline and patience to wait until your partner gets turned on, and once that happens, you fully support and share their desire. You increasingly find a special joy in not forcing sexual activity but waiting for it to occur naturally in the given circumstances. Sometimes you can even allow yourself to feel like a fragile and vulnerable being ready to shed off your usual confidence and strength.
You use the eroticism of surrender to expand your range of pleasure! By yielding rather than pressing forward you gain a different kind of sexual power, where your partner can lead and feel more confident and you can see what they are really capable of. And if you are already aroused, if your body is turned on and knows what it wants, you can lead any partner into the abyss of passion. You know how to be truly desired!
You know how to pick the right direction
You have learned to make decisions based on what pleases and suits you. When you trust your intuition, you are often lucky – both in relationships and in sex. A decision about a partner made on the fly – whether to come closer or pull back, to agree or decline to have sex – most of the time turns out to be the right one. This skill is crucial in almost all areas of life, from the choice of clothes, places for dates, relaxation and flirting, to the life-work balance.
This is how you are able to maintain enough energy and strength for pleasure, which makes you a very hot and attractive partner. You can restrain your sexual impulses in order to end up with more pleasure, avoid unnecessary risks, or cool someone’s passions. Thanks to this, you can add new experiences to your sexual repertoire as it becomes more varied and exciting.
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Your self-esteem and mood depend on the approval of others. You often check for signs of attention from people you find attractive in order to feel confident and be in a good mood. To you, this feels perfectly normal. Flirting is a great way for you to maintain high spirits in your daily life.
Take the initiative in sex? Why not?
Both in work and in life, you make decisions quickly and confidently, and that attracts other people to you. You also notice potential sexual partners and give them the opportunity to take the first step. Is this flirting? Of course!
You pay attention to other people through sexual pursuits, even though it doesn’t always end in sex. In intimate matters, you are observant and cautious, always wanting to make sure that your potential partner wants the same thing as you. When you decide to go for intimacy, you never look back and get the most pleasure out of it. If something is not working, you do not criticize yourself but boldly forge ahead. You prefer long-term relationships, but you also enjoy nonsexual friendships. If and when you need such a relationship, you go out in search of them.
When you find a suitable partner, you check to see their sexual potential to make sure you are compatible in this vital area. If not, you find a different relationship format.
Strengths parties:
- Deep inner balance and the sense of “something bigger” in life, where sex is the source of on-demand pleasure.
- Natural self-regulation in all spheres of life, mastery of achieving harmony and well-being in your health, work, finances, etc. Creating comfort to attain maximum pleasure.
- Trust in your body in matters of love, the ability to rely on your own sexual impulses and express them outwardly naturally and directly.
- You are evolving towards the ability to make choices that satisfy your desires.
Vulnerable parties:
- Your interest in all things spiritual and philosophical may lead you away from your physical and emotional needs.
- From time to time, you tend to get stuck on everyday matters, and this kills romance. Don’t be surprised if your partners may consider you a bore and suddenly lose sexual interest in you.
- Your sexual reactions can put you in an uncomfortable position if you do not have time to orient yourself and cope with arousal. You may blush, blurt things out, or give yourself away in some other, even more obvious way.
- Admit it: ultimately, you only ever care about your own interests. It may not be so bad when it comes to business, but you should make exceptions when it comes to love and sex.
Recommendations:
#01
However rich or poor your previous sexual experience may have been, now you give it an almost mystical meaning, finding signs that all your previous and current relationships, experiences, victories, and losses were not an accident. You may remember your exes and sexual adventures with fondness, or sadness, or even anger, placing them into the context of sophisticated, meaningful stories.
In literature and film, you find parallels with your own life. Use these stories to energize yourself; do not let yourself drift into the illusionary world filled with dreams and make-believe stories. When was the last time you’ve read a truly erotic story? Maybe you have always dreamed of writing your own? Try it, you don’t have to publish it! But it’s a really great way to experiment – half of what you’ve not had the chance to try in real life you can try virtually, inviting other people to your dream reality.
Do not ignore the power of an image or written word. To be able to seduce people through your words, through your story is truly hot! This will also help you more actively engage your body in the work of achieving pleasure and bring your sexual realm out of the shadow of other parts of your life.
#02
However, your partner’s level of sexual arousal and activity can be indicative of how comfortable they are with your particular brand of high standards and attention to detail. If your partner is just following your orders and acting predictably, maybe it’s time for a change of scenery? Traveling is a great way to introduce variety and spice into the mundane, everyday sex. A new place will refresh the senses – beautiful sights, unusual settings, and new smells and temperatures will create a fresh new mood.
Even if you endeavor to take care of your comfort in advance, you won’t be able to foresee everything. This will give your partner a chance to get out of the familiar coziness you have created and bring in an element of surprise. At the same time, you will be able to expand your criteria and add yet another destination to your “palette” for life and sex. Soon you will feel how effortlessly you can change your living conditions while also maintaining the complete satisfaction and intrigue of orgasm in an otherwise relaxed and comfortable setting.
#03
By controlling your breathing, you will stay in touch with yourself and your desires and, simultaneously, learn to control your physical and emotional states so they won’t betray you. You should accept and approve your impulses and emotional states; you should also find the right people and context for self-fulfillment.
While you are looking for what you want, the sexual impulse may get lost. This scares you, so sometimes, when you are in a rush, you find yourself in an uncomfortable position. By using breathing, you will be able to maintain arousal when in contact with a partner for a longer time and will be able to orgasm precisely when you want to.
#04
If something brings pleasure, don’t be shy and let your sexual partner see you, so your sensations can be amplified. Avoid the unpleasant, and don’t hesitate to show disgust. Remember that your ability to be sincere and truly enjoy your pleasure is what makes you unique and important to those around you.
